I would say that selflessness is a vice because it never does any good for anybody. For one it has to be done with zero expectations which is next to impossible. One does expect a little understanding and when that is not coming it hurts. It hurts like hell. Its easy to take the high road and preach that expectations bring heartbreak, but is it totally wrong at least not to be misunderstood for the selfless action?
That is another problem. Your statements can mean something else to another even when made with absolute innocence with no malice or double entendres. But how do you explain that? If people want it meant something else you cant stop them.
And selflessness is addictive. Bad for emotional health. How much hurt can one heart take? Not too many but if selflessness is a part of you then your heart is going to be one patchwork case. How much ever you want to give it up, you just can't. When you see somebody in trouble, the thought never enters your mind how your actions are going to be interpreted but how can you act and put things right.
So that’s what I mean when I say selflessness is a vice which is better not experimented with and its best left alone. Its better to leave it alone and adopt the virtues of selfishness. At least you know your heart is going to be in great shape.
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I have yet to see someone who is selfless. Everything you do, you do it for a specific purpose with your best interests at heart. Now whether that does the other person good or bad gives way for an entierly different discussion.
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hey I read 3-4 post of urs nice damn nice. I am a journalist from Mumbai. Feels nice to know there are people who thik this way. I would like to be ur friend MY email id is sgkrishna.i@gmail.com.please gimme urs.
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Govindk
Very interesting. A lady named Ayn Rand, who I don't like much, also had a similar thing to say. But she called it "the virtue of selfishness". Your "vices of selflessness" come close but not quite. Will drop by again. Till then, hang in there.
govind krishna here hey you haven replied mails no new posts what happenned? do reply soon regards,Govind
selflessness is malice..but is it worth "trying" to be selfish?.. with your heart eating you all the time up and the guilt taking over for ignoring the help you could have provided and did'nt?..no use.. because somewhere down the line you are doing it for yourself too.. possibly coz of the guilt or the problem of not being able to say a no or the fear of looking bad in someone's eyes or letting down someone's expectations..better be selfless and crib about people taking you for granted.. its much easier..believe me!
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